Here's Your Pep Talk, Mama!
When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back for being a great Mom? What about the last time you acknowledged the badassery of a fellow mama? And I'm not talking about all the things you're doing WHILE being a Mom — I'm emphasizing the actual BEING a Mom.
Has it been awhile? Do we even know what that looks like anymore? I think, in so many ways, we begin losing our identities when we become moms. And I, at least, have 13 identities on any one given day. Don’t get me wrong, though: I'm PROUD of my multiple personalities. Especially because it drives other people crazy. I can just imagine some people picking up the phone and thinking, "which Sarah am I getting today? Will it be Calm Mom, Mom Gone Mad, Business Sarah, Pissed Off HR Sarah..? Who will it be?!"
Anyway, I digress. We're on our way to a whole other blog, so, I better get back on track! Say hello to "Scattered-Passionate-Squirrel-Brain Sarah!" It's nice to meet you!
Now, back to my point for this piece.
It's so easy to get wrapped up in the fact that we work/own businesses while raising kids that we sometimes forget the little victories. Like the fact that the dishes got done and maybe we didn't completely lose our shit that day and STILL got the kids through the day alive and well.
When was the last time you celebrated your presence as a Mom? The attention and love you give, no matter how exhausted and gross you feel. Because let's be real, most of us are lucky to shower 1-2x per week. Or, is that just me?
Nevermind. Personal hygiene is personal. Unless you're a Mom. Then our time to take care of our personal hygiene **cough cough shower time** is often invaded by tiny humans.
We base our Mom Life success on how well we do, and whether we actually do, all the things. However, doing all the things is not the most important part of being a Mom. The most important thing about being a Mom, is the unconditional love that we give. The time that we give TO our kids.
I know what it feels like to wish I could give more time. Yet, I also know that it's not the amount of time, but the quality of it, that matters most. The reading of a book, playing a game, wiping their tears, listening to them, inviting them into the kitchen with you…those are the memories they cherish. And later, they will also appreciate the hard work you did FOR them too. But what will mean the most, is the love you gave them, and the memories you made with them.
Take a moment right now, and pat yourself on the back if you love your little(s). Pat again if you would do anything for them. I'm serious. You can pat your own back and still read this at the same time. You're a Mom!
You're an amazing Mama. And your littles are so lucky to have you. So many do not have the gift that you're giving. Don't be too hard on yourself. Each day when you lay down to sleep, remember the words you just read. You may not have gotten to all the things, but you loved your babies. And that makes you an amazing Mom.